When One Of Us Wins, We All Win

Ravennas Monday MumblingsWelcome to Ravenna’s Monday Mumblings!

Today I’d like to talk about supporting other authors.

Let’s face it. We’re human beings. It’s a given we aren’t going to adore everyone. We won’t even like everyone. But the bottom line is that we are all in this together. It’s a very long, tough road to try to go this alone.

drama llama in the eyeSo… what about the authors who can’t seem to get along with anyone? It’s sad but true that some authors invite drama. They revel in it. Am I suggesting you buy into that? No. Not at all. Obviously if someone has set up an atmosphere where it’s US against THEM, you have the choice to walk away. Ignore. Block. Delete. These authors aren’t looking for reciprocal support. They’re looking for people to worship them and take no other authors before them. It’s utter nonsense. By all means, walk away. You don’t have to hurt them – that would be playing into their hands, plus it’s lousy Karma – but neither do you have to go out of your way to support them. Have a discerning spirit, and do what is healthy for YOU.

movies-mean-girls-still-2Other authors are just plain nasty and mean. I always wonder who their readers are?? Demons?? I mean why would anyone buy into that crap?? They attack readers and fellow authors, and they draw up camps around them as if this was a battle. Am I saying you should choose a side and waste your days on social media in cyber fights over the nonsense these authors spew? Again, a big NO. Obviously if someone is that toxic, or the way they deal with others online goes against everything you believe in, the healthiest thing you can do for yourself is not to deal with them at all.

build each other upThank goodness the majority of authors are NOT like the two examples above. This post is for the rest of us.

How can you help support other authors? Simple things. Share their releases. Like their statuses. If you write for the same house, like the statuses about them your publisher posts. Offer help in an author Facebook group if they ask for it. If you’re in a group blog with them (like this one) share their posts. Comment on their posts when appropriate. Show that you’re a team player, not part of a clique.

does not play niceYou don’t have to pretend to love everyone. Others will see through that anyway. I’m talking about basic support for other writers as your fellow authors. Even if you’re not great friends with someone, unless they’re acting like the two examples above, they deserve your respect, at the very least, for the simple reason they are an author, just like you.

And yes, it works both ways. They should do the same for you. Will they always? No. We know that. We’re not naive. But does that mean you should act like a five-year-old and not play in their sandbox, simply because they didn’t buy lemonade from you last weekend? No. It does not. If that’s how you’re keeping score, I strongly urge you to get a very tall step ladder and get over yourself. You’re not the center of the universe.

we rise by lifting othersSet a good exampleWill doing all this earn you the undying respect of every author you know? Maybe. Maybe not. Does that really matter? It shouldn’t. We should support each other for all the reasons listed above, not because someone might be keeping score, or because it will make us look good.

And never forget that our READERS are watching. So do it for them if you can’t do it for anyone else. They’re the reason we have royalties, after all. Without them, our writing careers wouldn’t exist. Do it because it’s the right thing to do.

*****When one of us wins, we ALL win*****

That’s right. It’s that kind of a game. We need each other. We don’t have to love each other, but we do need to support one another.

Until next week, Happy Writing! 

7 thoughts on “When One Of Us Wins, We All Win

  1. I just love this post, Ravenna. I have no time for divas or drama queens, myself. Have met a few over the years and been quick to distance myself from that particular type of crazy. Ain’t no one got time for that shite. 😉

    I’ve always firmly believed in supporting other authors. It only makes sense after all. We get enough stick from other sources for doing what we love, we need to support each other, indeed 🙂

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  2. Excellent post for new (and established) authors to read. We all come across folks who say one thing to our faces, and behind our backs say something else entirely different.

    The worst, in my opinion anyway, are the ones set and determined to ruin another author over petty, and often blown out of proportion differences. Twisting things to suit their narrative. Drives me nuts! If you can’t play nice, then agree to not play at all. We are all here to do what we love, why can’t that be enough?

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