Manners… #TuesdayThoughts with Doris (@mamaD8)

Hello, lovely peeps. You know my gran had a saying that I have taken to heart… well, she had several along the lines of….


-Manners, cost nothing, and get you a long way in life

-If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all

-Don’t be rude…

-Has your mother never told you…

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It’s not hard, really, is it?  Good manners make the world go round, and they make the internet a darn side nicer place. Or they would, if folks employed them. Sadly, the opposite seems to be true. Folks seem to lose any semblance of decent behaviour when they get behind a computer screen. And you, know, I hate to tell you, but the internet is not as anonymous as you might think it is.

Things tend to come and bite you on the behind and never is that truer than in the world of publishing. Readers talk, fellow authors talk, hey, publishers know each other and talk and you bet your bottom dollar they will google a new to them author.

So, really, it’s in your best interest to mind your manners.

Yet, so many people don’t. How many times do you read about yet another author melt down? While it makes for amusing reading from the sidelines it’s akin to professional suicide. Readers have looong memories.

What prompted this particular post you might ask. Well, I posted some promo on Sunday regarding one of my upcoming releases in a BDSM series. One that is really rather popular and has some loyal fans.

Someone, and no, I shall not name her, took it upon herself to swear under that post, and say something along the lines of not another book where women were bottoms, and eff fifty shades (I’m paraphrasing on purpose).

Now, the sheer vehemence behind that comment took me aback a bit. I politely replied along the lines of it was nothing like fifty and she didn’t have to read it.

I posted in my reader group to say I didn’t know whether to be amused or annoyed at that comment, still not referring to the post or the poster in detail, but those loyal readers found the post anyway, and said their piece, despite me saying it was best to leave it alone.

See, that’s the problem with saying something nasty. Folks tend to object. Not only did that comment make a mockery of any female submissive, it also mocked the readers who like to read about the lifestyle. It mocked the actual lifestyle, and the people living it, and all those who loved fifty.

Epic fail on the side of that original commenter.

Now, don’t get me wrong. She is, of course entitled to her opinion. What she wasn’t entitled to was the way in which she expressed it. Someone else commented along the lines of that it was not something she wanted to read, and that is absolutely fine.

We all like different things. I know lots of people like to read about MC romances, for instances. I don’t. I tried and I just can’t wrap my head around them and some of my favourite authors write them.

Does that mean I can spout off about how rubbish they are? No, it doesn’t, because they are not. They are just not to my taste, so I scroll on by.

It’s simple manners, see. Cost nothing and get you far in life.

So, next time you feel inclined to voice your opinion, stop a minute and examine your motives. And perhaps temper those words somewhat, or don’t say them at all 🙂

That’s all from me today.

Do stay naughty, folks,

D xxx


14 thoughts on “Manners… #TuesdayThoughts with Doris (@mamaD8)

  1. It amazes me what people will put on the Net, social media or anywhere else. Readers do have very long memories, but the Internet never, ever forgets. You might delete it from the here and now but some ingenious individual can/will ferret it out and ruin your day. Wonderful post, Doris. Wise words that everyone should take to heart.

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